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It’s Not Crap That You’re Stuck In; It’s Chocolate — Having Faith

 

 “All the world is made of faith, and trust, and pixie dust.” ― J.M. Barrie (Tweet it!)

This is a post about the rough times, and how they happen for a reason even if the reason is unknown to us at the time; I guess this is what you call having faith.

Having faith that God, the Universe, a Higher Power wants what is best for you.

Having faith that you are strong enough to get through it.

Having faith that something better is just around the corner.

Having faith that the crap you’re slogging through isn’t crap; it’s actually chocolate.

The Uses of Sorrow - Having Faith

Last week my boss at my day job unexpectedly gave his 2 weeks notice. I’m his assistant and I work at a very small company so this has a huge impact on my future. I decided to take something scary and turn it into an opportunity. I decided to be extremely bold, and go for my boss’ job.

I spent a weekend making and refining a presentation for the owner of the company. I’ve worked there for 6 years. I know all our customers. I’m smart and enthusiastic. At the meeting with the owner, I presented a dozen new ideas of things we could do to improve our sales. I asked for a reasonable compensation in return for the promotion. I was so excited I could barely stand it. After all, how could he refuse? I would be doing the job by default anyway. Why would he choose to hire some stranger over someone who has been with the company for so long?

You can probably see where this headed. He said no. Well, actually he said that yes, he would like me to implement all of the new ideas, but he didn’t want to increase my income.

I was really discouraged and appalled by his response. I felt crappy and off balance all week. (I hate feeling off balance. Libra here.)

“I don’t think that we’re meant to understand it all the time. I think that sometimes we just have to have faith.” ― Nicholas Sparks (Tweet it!)

I was talking it out with my sister when I remembered a time that something similar happened to me back in high school. My high school did tryouts for the girl’s cheerleading team. The student body voted in the spring for the people that would have the positions the next school year; like you would when running for student body. I was trying out for my second year of cheerleading. Long story short, my peers didn’t vote for me, and I didn’t make the team.

I was devastated. The day we found out the results, there was a school dance that everyone went to. I had to go or everyone would know how much they hurt me. Even so, I ended up crying in the bathroom for most of the dance. I’m not telling you this because I need sympathy, but to explain how awful this experience was … at the time.

Here’s what you don’t know yet – the good that came of it. That summer my aunt offered to have me live with her and attend school for a year in Berlin, Germany. I said yes. If I’d had a commitment to be a cheerleader at my high school, I wouldn’t have been free to take the opportunity.

That year in Berlin was a life altering experience for me. You know how you can look back on some events and realize that if one simple vote (or choice, or action) had been different you would be on a completely different life path? If I had stayed in Idaho to be a cheerleader, I would have started dating that year, maybe fallen in love with a young Mormon boy, gotten married a couple years later, and might now be living in Idaho in a town of about 300 people.

Instead I went to Berlin, where my mind was opened to different cultures and perspectives. I loved eating delicious chocolate every day (the chocolate is so much better in Europe). I learned to ski in the Alps. I loved my international school, where I met kids from all over the world. I loved the people there and friends that I made. A couple of those people are still my best friends, almost 20 years later.

So this week, when I’m feeling tossed and turned about, off track and out of whack, I’m doing my best to have faith and remember that this is happening for a reason. Not that bad things happen for a reason, but that whatever is causing the bad feelings might not even be bad at all.

This crap could be chocolate! In fact, I have faith that it is.

Right now, the best thing for me is to not get this job promotion, because now I am open to an even better opportunity just around the corner. Something awesome. Something exciting. Maybe even something completely, magically life changing.

Have you had a similar experience in your life; something that you thought was bad but turned out to be a blessing? Or are you in the middle of some crazy crap right now? Please share in the comments below. I find that when keeping faith, it helps to hear other people’s stories, and it helps to share.

The most secure place to hide a treasure
of gold
is in some desolate, unnoticed place.
Why would anyone hide a treasure
in plain sight?
And so it is said,
“Joy is hidden beneath the sorrow.”
-Rumi


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2 Responses to It’s Not Crap That You’re Stuck In; It’s Chocolate — Having Faith

  1. Megan says:

    I always wonder what would have happened if I hadn’t had the worst year of my life in 2005. If I hadn’t had my heart broken so thoroughly, if I hadn’t felt so betrayed, if I hadn’t felt so unappreciated and even abused at my job…maybe I wouldn’t have had the courage to let go of everything. To talk to a stranger, and eventually tell him I loved him. To quit a bad job without knowing whether I had gotten a better one. To get up on a stage and sing songs I had written myself. It wasn’t just that losing some things — things I had been terrified to lose — made space for other, better things. It was that I discovered my strength. My courage. I saw that life could change and I could be vulnerable, but that I would still exist. I saw that if I wanted to be treated better by the world, I had to demand better treatment! I opened my eyes and saw that the things I was clinging to weren’t serving me, but that I was just petrified to lose them because they were familiar, or because they were somehow what I thought I should be wanting. Being pushed out on a limb is a great way to learn to fly…

    • Erin says:

      Megan, I love that. I love how with your perspective you are the cause of the good things in your life. You didn’t just sit around waiting for the better thing to show up; you went out and made good things happen.

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